You can still have a new beginning by accepting and loving your partner just as she is. But first…you have to accept yourself and love yourself just the way you are.Don Miguel Ruiz
If you’re feeling a little disappointed after Valentine’s day, or simply want to build better relationships with loved ones, check out The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationships by Don Miguel Ruiz.
Long-time readers may recall, I am a fan of his work. I wrote a longer book note on his previous book, The Four Agreements.
Perhaps this is why I can’t help but provide three more quotes from the book:
First, some good advice for all of relationships:
You cannot change other people… You accept them the way they are or you don’t. To try to change them to fit what you want them to be is like trying to change a dog for a cat, or a cat for a horse.
Second, if you are happy but your loved one is not:
Because you love her you will support her, but supporting her doesn’t mean you are going to be unhappy because she’s unhappy. This is not support at all. If she’s unhappy and you get unhappy, both of you sink. If you are happy, your happiness can bring her back.
Third, to build better relationships when you are the unhappy one:
If you are down and she is happy, her happiness is your support. For your own sake, let her be happy; don’t even try to take her happiness away… Be silent and let her know it’s nothing personal, you’re just dealing with yourself.
No knitting from me this week. Instead, I’m featuring #LovePeopleBeKind hearts crocheted by my friend Lisa Daehlin who sings, knits and crochets. Many of her lacey patterns have been published, too. Please check her out!
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