Searching for your purpose or calling? Grow into your true self instead

We grow into our true selves, our whole selves, overcoming our fears and the limits that once trapped us…a calling is not something you know, it’s something you grow into through trials and mistakes.

Po Bronson

People who are dissatisfied with their jobs often try searching for a purpose or calling. They don’t realize that searching for it or planning for it doesn’t work.

When I was unhappy at my job (and trying to get pregnant), I bought a lot of books on finding the right career. One of them was What Should I Do With My Life? The True Story of People Who Answered The Ultimate Question by Po Bronson. I don’t think I read the book cover to cover, I skimmed and read different stories that caught my eye. But, I do find myself returning to the introduction and conclusions where he summarizes what he learned.

In a nutshell, he found through his interviews what I uncovered as I coached my clients: You can’t think up a calling or a passion. You can’t research your purpose or plan out your life. You discover these as you live out your life. In his words…

You don’t find your purpose above the neck, you find it below the neck, when you’re transformed by what you have witnessed.

So instead of searching for your purpose or calling, try doing something that rings true to you. (You can also try The Lighthouse Method.)

Knitting Notes

I finally finished the purse stitch scarf in the car during our family’s road trip to drop off our older daughter at college. It has quite a few more mistakes than I’d like but as knitters know that’s a good thing.

Designed for smart and caring women who are busy taking care of everyone else in their life, this online course helps you get unstuck. Whether you’re trying to change jobs, find a new career, or start a side business, this course shows you why conventional advice can keep you stuck. With short video lessons, workbooks, and support from Stacy, you’ll master The Lighthouse Method® to find time for your endeavor, build confidence and make progress…even when you’re unsure of what you want to do.

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