How to play the status game: Warmth, sincerity and competence

When we’re warm, we imply we’re not going to use dominance; when sincere, that we’re going to play fairly; when competent, that we’re going to be valuable to the game itself.

Will Storr

Whether we’re aware of it or not, we’re always jockeying for a better position in life.

I was fortunate to be able to interview, Will Storr, for a recent WIRED article. Despite being brief, it was an insightful conversation. I devoured two of his books, this one, The Status Game: On Huan Life and How to Play It and Storytelling.

I highly recommend this book! It helps me become aware of how I am susceptible to the status game. Storr explains how my brain will spin stories to justify how I’m winning or losing in ways that are not helpful to me or to others. He keeps it interesting, providing anthropological and social science context.

Thankfully, he also provides seven rules on how to play the status game well. Warmth, sincerity, and competence are just rule 1. I hope you’ll check out the book for the other rules, and let me know what you think.

Knitting Notes

I made a cowl for my uncle. He and my aunt often check in on my Dad in Seoul even though they live two hours away. What I love about him is that he is joyful. I knit this for him with thoughts of gratitude and wishes for his good health.

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